Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

A civilization which leaves so large a number of its participants unsatisfied and drives them into revolt neither has nor deserves the prospect of a lasting existence. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

A love that does not discriminate seems to me to forfeit a part of its own value, by doing an injustice to its object; and secondly, not all men are worthy of love.

A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world. A man who has been the indisputable favourite of his mother keeps for life the feeling of a conqueror.

A piece of creative writing, like a day-dream, is a continuation of, and a substitute for, what was once the play of childhood.

A religion, even if it calls itself a religion of love, must be hard and unloving to those who do not belong to it.

A transference neurosis corresponds to a conflict between ego and id, a narcissistic neurosis corresponds to that between ego and super-ego, and psychosis to that between ego and outer world.

A woman should soften but not weaken a man.

America is a mistake, a giant mistake.

America is the most grandiose experiment the world has seen, but, I am afraid, it is not going to be a success.

Anatomy is destiny. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

Beauty has no obvious use; nor is there any clear cultural necessity for it. Yet civilization could not do without it

Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by unpleasant people. Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.

Children are completely egoistic; they feel their needs intensely and strive ruthlessly to satisfy them. Civilization began the first time an angry person cast a word instead of a rock.

Civilized society is perpetually menaced with disintegration through this primary hostility of men towards one another.

Conscience is the internal perception of the rejection of a particular wish operating within us.

Conservatism is too often a welcome excuse for lazy minds, loath to adapt themselves to fast-changing conditions. Dreams are often most profound when they seem the most crazy.

Children are completely egoistic; they feel their needs intensely and strive ruthlessly to satisfy them.

Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.

Everyone owes nature a death. Everywhere I go I find a poet has been there before me. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

Experience teaches that for most people there is a limit beyond which their constitution cannot comply with the demands of civilization. All who wish to reach a higher standard than their constitution will allow, fall victims to neurosis. It would have been better for them if they could have remained less “perfect”. From error to error, one discovers the entire truth.

He does not believe that does not live according to his belief. He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore. He who knows how to wait for need make no concessions.

How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.

Human beings are funny. They long to be with the person they love but refuse to admit openly. Some are afraid to show even the slightest sign of affection because of fear. Fear that their feelings may not be recognized, or even worst, returned. But one thing about human beings puzzles me the most is their conscious effort to be connected with the object of their affection even if it kills them slowly within.

Humanity has in the course of time had to endure from the hands of science two great outrages upon its naive self-love. The first was when it realized that our earth was not the centre of the universe, but only a tiny speck in a world-system of a magnitude hardly conceivable; this is associated in our minds with the name of Copernicus, although Alexandrian doctrines taught something very similar. The second was when biological research robbed man of his peculiar privilege of having been specially created, and relegated him to a descent from the animal world, implying an ineradicable animal nature in him: this transvaluation has been accomplished in our own time upon the instigation of Charles Darwin, Wallace, and their predecessors, and not without the most violent opposition from their contemporaries. But man’s craving for grandiosity is now suffering the third and most bitter blow from present-day psychological research which is endeavouring to prove to the ego of each one of us that he is not even master in his own house, but that he must remain content with the veriest scraps of information about what is going on unconsciously in his own mind. We psycho-analysts were neither the first nor the only ones to propose to mankind that they should look inward, but it appears to be our lot to advocate it most insistently and to support it by empirical evidence which touches every man closely. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

I became aware of my destiny: to belong to the critical minority as opposed to the unquestioning majority.

I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.

I never want to belong to any club that would have someone like me as a member. If children could if adults knew.

If you don’t like a person it’s because they remind you of something you don’t like about yourself. If youth knew; if age could. Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must, therefore, accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces. Immorality, no less than morality, has at all times found support in religion.

In matters of sexuality, we are at present, every one of us, ill or well, nothing but hypocrites.

In mourning it is the world which has become poor and empty; in melancholia, it is the ego itself. In the depths of my heart, I can’t help being convinced that my dear fellow-men, with a few exceptions, are worthless. In the small matters trust the mind, in the large ones the heart.

The instinct of love toward an object demands a mastery to obtain it, and if a person feels they can’t control the object or feel threatened by it, they act negatively toward it.

It goes without saying that a civilization which leaves so large a number of its participants unsatisfied and drives them into revolt neither has nor deserves the prospect of a lasting existence.

It is a predisposition of human nature to consider an unpleasant idea untrue, and then it is easy to find arguments against it.

It is impossible to escape the impression that people commonly use false standards of measurement — that they seek power, success and wealth for themselves and admire them in others, and that they underestimate what is of true value in life.

It is impossible to overlook the extent to which civilization is built up upon a renunciation of instinct.

It is not attention that the child is seeking, but love.

It would be very nice if there were a God who created the world and was a benevolent providence, and if there were a moral order in the universe and an after-life, but it is a very striking fact that all this is exactly as we are bound to wish it to be.

Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments, and impossible tasks. In order to bear it, we cannot dispense with palliative measures… There are perhaps three such measures: powerful deflections, which cause us to make light of our misery; substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it; and intoxicating substances, which make us insensible to it.

Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.

Love in the form of longing and deprivation lowers self regard.

Man has, as it were, become a kind of prosthetic God.

Maturity is the ability to postpone gratification. Men are more moral than they think and far more immoral than they can imagine.
The liberty of the individual is no gift of civilization. It was greatest before there was any civilization.

Men are strong so long as they represent a strong idea. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.

My love is something valuable to me which I ought not to throw away without reflection. Neurosis is no excuse for bad manners. Neurosis is the inability to tolerate ambiguity.

Neurotics complain of their illness, but they make the most of it, and when it comes to taking it away from them they will defend it like a lioness her young.

No neurotic harbours thoughts of suicide which are not murderous impulses against others redirected upon himself.

No, our science is no illusion. But an illusion it would be to suppose that what science cannot give us we can get elsewhere.

One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.

One thing only do I know for certain and that is that man’s judgments of value follow directly his wishes for happiness-that, accordingly, they are an attempt to support his illusions with arguments.

Our memory has no guarantees at all, and yet we bow more often than is objectively justified to the compulsion to believe what it says.

Our possibilities of happiness are already restricted by our constitution. Unhappiness is much less difficult to experience. We are threatened with suffering from three directions: from our own body, which is doomed to decay and dissolution and which cannot even do without pain and anxiety as warning signals; from the external world, which may rage against us with overwhelming and merciless forces of destruction; and finally from our relations to other men. The suffering which comes from this last source is perhaps more painful to us than any other. Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.

Poets are masters of us ordinary men, in the knowledge of the mind, because they drink at streams which we have not yet made accessible to science.

The public self is a conditioned construct of the inner psychological self.

Religion is a system of wishful illusions together with a disavowal of reality, such as we find nowhere else but in a state of blissful hallucinatory confusion. Religion’s eleventh commandment is “Thou shalt not question”.

Religion is an attempt to get control over the sensory world, in which we are placed, by means of the wish-world, which we have developed inside us as a result of biological and psychological necessities. But it cannot achieve its end. Its doctrines carry with them the stamp of the times in which they originated, the ignorant childhood days of the human race. Its consolations deserve no trust. Experience teaches us that the world is not a nursery. The ethical commands, to which religion seeks to lend its weight, require some other foundations instead, for human society cannot do without them, and it is dangerous to link up obedience to them with religious belief. If one attempts to assign to religion its place in man’s evolution, it seems not so much to be a lasting acquisition, as a parallel to the neurosis which the civilized individual must pass through on his way from childhood to maturity.

Religion is an illusion and it derives its strength from the fact that it falls in with our instinctual desires.

Religion is comparable to a childhood neurosis, and he is optimistic enough to suppose that mankind will surmount this neurotic phase, just as so many children grow out of their similar neurosis.

Religious doctrines are all illusions, they do not admit of proof, and no one can be compelled to consider them as true or to believe in them.

Smoking is indispensable if one has nothing to kiss.

That feeling of oneness with the universe which is its ideational content sounds very like a first attempt at the consolations of religion, like another way taken by the ego of denying the dangers it sees threatening it in the external world.

The behaviour of a human being in sexual matters is often a prototype for the whole of his other modes of reaction in life.

The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humour but without folly. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

The child takes his play very seriously and he expends large amounts of emotion on it.

The creative writer does the same as the child at play; he creates a world of fantasy which he takes very seriously.

The dream is the liberation of the spirit from the pressure of external nature, a detachment of the soul from the fetters of matter. The ego is not master in its own house.

The ego refuses to be distressed by the provocations of reality, to let itself be compelled to suffer. It insists that it cannot be affected by the traumas of the external world; it shows, in fact, that such traumas are no more than occasions for it to gain pleasure.

The goal of all life is death. The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?’

The individual does actually carry on a double existence: one designed to serve his own purposes and another as a link in a chain, in which he serves against, or at any rate without, any volition of his own.

The intention that man should be happy is not in the plan of Creation.

The interpretation of dreams is the royal road to a knowledge of the unconscious activities of the mind.

The liberty of the individual is no gift of civilization. It was greatest before there was any civilization.

The madman is a dreamer awake.

The mind is like an iceberg, it floats with one-seventh of its bulk above water. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

The more perfect a person is on the outside, the more demons they have on the inside.

The only person with whom you have to compare yourself is you in the past.

The time comes when each of us has to give up as illusions the expectations which, in his youth, he pinned upon his fellow-men, and when he may learn how much difficulty and pain has been added to his life by their ill-will.

The virtuous man contents himself with dreaming that which the wicked man does in actual life. There are no mistakes.

There is a powerful force within us, an unilluminated part of the mind – separate from the conscious mind that is constantly at work moulding our thought, feelings, and actions.

The thought is action in rehearsal.

Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.

We are never so defenceless against suffering as when we love. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

We are what we are because we have been what we have been, and what is needed for solving the problems of human life and motives is not moral estimates but more knowledge.

We choose not randomly each other. We meet only those who already exist in our subconscious.

We may insist as often as we like that man’s intellect is powerless in comparison to his instinctual life, and we may be right in this. Nevertheless, there is something peculiar about this weakness. The voice of the intellect is a soft one, but it will not rest until it has gained a hearing. Finally, after a countless succession of rebuffs, it succeeds.

What is common in all these dreams is obvious. They completely satisfy wishes excited during the day which remain unrealized. They are simply and undisguisedly realizations of wishes.

What progress we are making. In the Middle Ages, they would have burned me. Now they are content with burning my books.

When a love-relationship is at its height there is no room left for any interest in the environment; a pair of lovers are sufficient to themselves.

When I am criticized, I can defend myself, but I’m powerless against the praise.

When making a decision of minor importance, I have always found it advantageous to consider all the pros and cons. In vital matters, however, such as the choice of a mate or a profession, the decision should come from the unconscious, from somewhere within ourselves. In the important decisions of personal life, we should be governed, I think, by the deep inner needs of our nature.

When one does not have what one wants, one must want what one has.

Where does a thought go when it’s forgotten? Where Id is, there shall Ego be.

Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes

Where the questions of religion are concerned people are guilty of every possible kind of insincerity and intellectual misdemeanour.

Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism.

Words and magic were in the beginning one and the same thing and even today words retain much of their magical power.

Words have magical power. They can bring either the greatest happiness or deepest despair; they can transfer knowledge from teacher to student; words enable the orator to sway his audience and dictate its decisions. Words are capable of arousing the strongest emotions and prompting all men’s actions.

You wanted to kill your father in order to be your father yourself. Now you are your father, but a dead father. – Sigmund Freud Psychoanalysis Quotes